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[birds chirping]

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[doorbell ringing]

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(children)  
♪Hello! Hello!♪

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♪Won't you be my friend?♪

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♪Hello! Hello!♪

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♪Let's say it again.♪

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♪Hello! Hello!♪

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♪Won't you be my friend?♪

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♪Hello! Hello!♪

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♪Now you are my friend.♪

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♪♪♪

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♪H-E-L-L-O♪

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♪That's a word we all should  
know.♪

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♪H-E-L-L-O♪

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♪You can say it.♪

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♪Just say hello.♪

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♪♪♪

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Hey! There's Mr. Chuck!

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Well, hello, friend!

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Hello, Mr. Chuck!

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Hello, Mr. Chuck!

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Hello, Mr. Rogers!

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Hope you have 
a good one.

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You, too. 
Thanks.

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Hello, friends.

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I am glad you could drop by 
today because

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I've got something to show you.

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Take a look at this.

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[snaps]

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What do you think?

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Pretty fancy stuff, huh?

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Do you think wearing fancy 
clothes makes people special?

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Well, I'll tell you, wearing 
fancy clothes makes you feel

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good and look good.

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When your hair is neatly brushed 
and you're all clean

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and dressed up, you do feel 
better about yourself.

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How you feel about yourself is 
very important.

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But that's not what makes you 
unique.

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Unique means one of a kind.

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Okay?

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How about this?

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[snaps]

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Do you think football players 
and other athletes are special?

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Well, it's true that when you're 
physically fit you look better

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and you feel better.

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But there's lots more to being 
special than looks.

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It's also true that an athlete's 
ability to play

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a particular sport does make 
them different from many people.

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But is what they do the thing 
that makes them special?

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Well, take a look at this.

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Hello, friends.

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I'm Rochelle Stevens.

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I won a gold medal at the 1996 
Summer Olympics,

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and I have to tell you, it was a 
wonderful, exciting experience

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and it did make me feel very 
good and very proud of myself.

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But winning a gold medal is not 
what makes me special.

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As an athlete I do have certain 
skills and abilities

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that not just everyone has.

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I worked and practiced very hard 
to have those skills.

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But that's not what makes me 
special.

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It's a part of who I am, but 
even if I couldn't

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do all those things, I'll still 
be Rochelle Stevens.

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I mean, lots of people have won 
medals at the Olympics

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and even more people are 
athletes.

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But there's only one Rochelle 
Stevens and that's me.

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I'm one of a kind.

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I am special.

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The really important things that 
make me special

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come from inside - the way I 
feel about myself,

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the way I have come to know 
myself, and like myself.

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You're special, too.

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And as you grow, you can learn 
to search inside yourself

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to find those things that make 
you special.

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Many things go together to make 
each of us unique.

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As you grow, you find out more 
and more about the things

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that make people special.

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You know, if we keep an open 
mind and are willing

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to learn more about ourselves 
and more about others,

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we can see how important and 
valuable each person can be.

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It's a lifelong adventure that 
you're just beginning.

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♪♪♪

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(man)  
♪I see your face.♪

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♪What a beautiful face.♪

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♪I see your face - it's a lot  
like mine.♪

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♪I see your face.♪

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♪What a loverly face.♪

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♪I see your face - it's a lot  
like mine.♪

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♪You have two eyes.♪

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♪And I have two eyes.♪

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♪You have two ears.♪

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♪I have two ears.♪

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[nasally]  
♪You've got a nose.♪

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♪And I've got a nose.♪

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♪I see your face - it's a lot  
like mine.♪

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♪I see your face.♪

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♪What a wonderful face.♪

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♪I see your face - it's a lot  
like...♪

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♪I see your face - it's a lot  
like mine.♪

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♪♪♪

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Friends, look closely at your 
finger.

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Do you see little ridges that  
loop around the tip

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of your finger?

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That's your fingerprint and no 
one else in the world

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has a fingerprint just like 
yours or mine.

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Everyone has a different 
fingerprint.

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If you have an inkpad and a 
piece of paper

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you can use them to look at your 
fingerprint.

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Just press your finger in the 
ink...

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And on the paper, like this.

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That's my fingerprint.

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No one else has a fingerprint 
just like mine.

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And you know, each of us is 
different in other ways, too.

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We may look alike in some ways, 
but we're really all different.

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And we're all special in our own 
way.

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Let me show you something you 
can do with your fingerprints.

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You can make a little drawing on 
them.

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First, you make a fingerprint 
with the ink, like I did.

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Then you use a fine point pen, 
kind of like this,

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and draw around the print like 
this.

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♪♪♪

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These little drawings make nice 
cards

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for your parents or  
grandparents.

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And since your fingerprint is 
one of a kind,

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your card will be one of a kind, 
too.

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[applause]

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(man)  
That's a very good sign.

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♪♪♪

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Look what I've got here.

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I've got a cup of orange slices.

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A cup of pineapple chunks.

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And a cup of coconut.

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I'll bet you know what an orange 
looks like.

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It's round and orange, of  
course.

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But have you ever seen a 
pineapple?

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Well, this is a pineapplpx<he.ú

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?It's where this com?

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It's green, brown, and oval in  
shape

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with spiky leaves at the top.

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This?x is a coconut.

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It's r0úound, brown, and kind of 
ha 
iry.  0

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And it's very hard on the  
outside.

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In fact, you need something like 
a hammer to get one open.

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I've cracked??úúh?.

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It's open and on the inside  
that's what it looks like.

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The white part is what you eat.

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They all look very different, 
don't they?

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Have you ever tasted any of 
these foods?

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Each one tastes different, but  
they're all very good.

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Today, I'm going to mix them all 
together to make a fruit salad.

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I'll just put them into this big 
bowl and sti?xpy?xr them up.

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♪♪♪

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You know it's fun to mix 
different foods together.

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♪♪♪

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Sometimes you come up with new 
ways to enjoy

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the foods you like.

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But you know what?

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I think it's the differences in 
these things that makes them fun

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when they are al?÷pygçl mixed up 
together.

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♪♪♪

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The different colors and flavors 
go together

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to make a pretty salad, and a  
tasty one, too.

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I mean, they're all very good by 
themselves,

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but if oranges were the only 
fruit you ever had to eat

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or if all fruit tasted like 
oranges,

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well it would get boring after 
awhile.

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People are like thatu, too. z

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Everyo?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ÷u?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?s 
the differences

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?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?ñ?ññzñzthat make life .

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It's the differences that make 
each of us special.

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And when we get together we can 
like each other

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just as much because, well, 
we're different and special

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as we can becaus?v>v>v>vl÷e havn 
common.

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♪♪♪

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Do you like fruit salad?

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So do I.

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See what I mean?

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[applause]

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(man)  
You can count on Rochelle.

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As we continue with the story of 
Awongolima, we find out more

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about the importance of sharing 
as we discover how everyone,

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large or small, can help in 
times of trouble.

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Now let's listen to our friend, 
Mrs. Isha, as she continues

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with the story of Awongolima.

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When Bird arrived at Ms. 
Queenie's house she was

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in the back working in her 
garden.

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Oh, she was raking and hoeing 
and fixing plants

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so they wouldn't bend or break.

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Bird! So good to see you, son.

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How are you?

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How's your grandmother doing?

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You know she and I used to work 
together

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over at the high school.

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She taught...I think she 
taught...was it woodshop?

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Yeah, I taught home economics.

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Party?

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Of course I want to go to a 
party.

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Just one moment, let me put my 
things away.

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You know that's a good thing to 
do when you work,

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you put things back so you can 
find them next time.

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I'll put them away and then I'll 
get my party clothes.

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A party!

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I think I'll wear my party 
apron, you see,

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because there might be some real 
fun things to take

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to the people and there might be 
some good fun things

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to bring home.

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That's what aprons are good for.

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And I'd better wear my party 
shawl around my head, you know?

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Because if you're going to take 
me back on your tail feather

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I just don't want my hair 
blowing everywhere you know.

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Well, I'm ready to go because 
I'm always ready for a party.

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I better close my door.

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And I better pack my puppy dog.

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Well, I'm ready.

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And about that time...bird on 
the wing...

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and watch out bird...cloud, 
cloud!

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Why you're a mighty good flier.

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It was good flying and they only 
stopped one time.

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Birdie had to get a drink of 
water at this little town

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where there were human beings 
just like me and you

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and animals who could stand up 
and talk,

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just like those human beings.

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And Miss Queenie just stood 
there waiting

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whiln<e bird got water.

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And soon they were back, back...

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watch out bird...cloud, cloud...

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Up in the air.

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Well, before you know it, did I 
tell ya it was a party?

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Did I tell you about all the 
singing and the dancing?

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And did I tell you about all the 
good eating?

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And the drinking?

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And the running?

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And the jumping?

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And did I tell you that everyone 
paid compliments

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and did good favor to everyone 
else?

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But did I tell you that toward 
the end of the day

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when it was time for people to 
pack and go home,

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Ms. Queenie straightened up her 
head cloth and she came

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to the front to give thanks to 
the king for sending bird

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that same day to get her.

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And she told the children how 
nice and well mannered

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they were.

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And she paid compliment to the 
young men and the young women

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and also to the ones who built 
the benches and laid down

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the picnic tables and made the 
pies.

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But she said, "Children, I'm so 
ç;ó5ó5ó5ó5pleased to be here.

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"But I must say to you that as 
an old lady in my experience,

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"if you're not careful and use 
time well,

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"in time things might occur 
differently than you thought.

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"You see, on our way here, Bird, 
who came to get me you know,

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"we stopped one time in a city 
and the people looked just like

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"you and me.

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"And the animals, yes the 
animals, they could stand up

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"and talk just like human 
beings.

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"But I saw there in that city, I 
saw pushing, and shoving,

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"and I heard no when yes would 
have done just as well,

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"and I saw injustice take the 
place of justice and there was

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"no peace and sometimes gangs 
and criminals were all around

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"doing things to make the people 
afraid.

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"Well, I didn't come to have you 
worry, I brought to you a seed.

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"A seed pod from a tree that 
grows [6[6Ñc÷q?>ó'Oññwçñç

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"of the mounta?m6Ñ6in - that'se 
I come from.

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"And if you plant this seed, 
that is, if you begin

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"to have trouble, you must only 
need to stand in front of it

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"once it has started to grow, 
and you must say a magic word.

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"When it has grown to maturity, 
the tree will HLffw ÑyÑy?wÑóÑ

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"no leaves, no flowers unless 
you say the magic word.

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"The magic word, the magic word.

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Awongalima."

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Tune in next time to see how the 
tr 
ee grows.

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By age four a child has already 
developed definite ideas

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about self worth.

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That is why it is important to 
begin building a foundation

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for positive self concept early 
on in a child's life.

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Children learn who they are 
through interaction with family,

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teachers, and friends.

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As parents, we can provide a 
warm, loving atmosphere

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in which to grow up, but well, 
what are some of the other ways

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to build a child's self image?

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That's a good question.

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And that's what we're going to 
talk about today

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on Parent's Corner.

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Our guest today 
is Dr. Charlotte Kennedy.

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Dr. Kennedy is a 
psychologist and 
she works with children.

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Glad to have you 
with us today.

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Thank you mofor 
the opportunity to 
be with you today.

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Dr., as I said earlier, a warm 
and loving environment

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does play a major role in 
helping a child develop

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positive self worth.

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And that seems straight forward 
enough,

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but it's a very broad idea.

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What are some specific things a 
parent can do to help develop

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a child's sense of self worth?

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There are a lot of things that 
parents can to do

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to say to children, "You're 
special."

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In fact I brought some examples.

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Could you help me with that?

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Thank you.

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This is a picture of a child's  
artwork that appeared

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in the newspaper.

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The parent saw the artwork,  
clipped the article,

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and framed it.

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And the picture is now hanging, 
ex 
cept for today,

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on the child's wall.

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Every morning when the child 
awakens she looks at her picture

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and she says, "That's something 
that I did."

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Her work product is important 
because

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the most important people in her 
life have displayed it

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on her wall.

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That's one of the things that  
parents can do.

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But a picture doesn't have to be 
pr 
ofessionally framed

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for a parent to recognize a 
child's accomplishment.

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I have another example.

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This is the same child's 
artwork.

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In fact, this is the artwork  
during her preschool years.

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Her parents have placed this on 
th 
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They've traveled across the 
country collecting artifacts

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and this picture is among their 
most prized possessions.

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The child looks at this as she  
is having her breakfast

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and she says, "That's a picture 
that I painted."

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And her parents tell her what a 
good job she did.

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She feels important and 
continues to say to herself,

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"I'm an important person because 
I do things

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that my parents value, that they 
appreciate."

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Sure.

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Another example...

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Wallpaper  .

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When parents decide to paper or 
pa 
int a child's room,

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it's important that a child have 
choices.

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I brought two choices of borders 
for wallpaper.

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A child feels important when a  
parent says,

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"Choose the kind of paper that  
you want on your wall."

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Allowing children choices gives 
them a feeling of accomplishment

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which they continue to see as 
they look around their room

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on a daily basis.

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And what are some pitfalls 
parents should avoid

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when allowing children to make 
choices?

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Frequently, parents get so 
excited about providing a child

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with the opportunity to make 
choices that they take them

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into the paper store itself.

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For example, a parent might take 
a child into a store and say,

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"Look around. Tell me what you 
find interesting.

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Tell me what you want to put on 
your wall."

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A preschool child having an 
unlimited number of choices

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becomes overwhelmed.

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Then it's difficult for them to 
choose.

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They haven't developed yet the 
ability to discriminate.

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So that's something you should  
not do?

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Yes.

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It's important then that parents 
choose two or three options,

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each of which they find 
attractive and present the child

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with those choices.

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"Which of these three kinds of 
wallpaper would you like?"

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The parent has chosen those that 
are affordable,

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that are pleasant to them, and 
therefore, the child

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is successful regardless of his 
or her choice.

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Well, Dr., we've 
talked about some 
things parents can do.

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What are some things 
a parent should say 
to a child?

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First and foremost, a parent can 
say, "You're special."

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Secondly, parents can comment on 
or compliment

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a child for intricate features.

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For example, "You have beautiful 
eyes. You have beautiful hair.

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You are pretty."

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When the most important people 
in the world say that,

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the child believes it, he or she 
says it to himself or herself

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and it's internalized.

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And it's important for parents 
to repeat that

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as often as they can.

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Finally and foremost, it is 
important for a parent to say,

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"I love you."

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How can parents recognize when a 
child has a serious problem

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with his or her self-esteem?

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And Dr., what are some signs 
that they should seek

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professional help?

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Children who have low self- 
esteem begin to make

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negative self statements.

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They begin to have doubts.

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Frequently we find that they 
exhibit problems

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in the classroom.

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They tell themselves that they 
are unable to learn,

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they have difficulty, therefore, 
learning because

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of those statements, and they 
begin to act out instead.

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Remember, children who are not 
able to perform well

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in the classroom have to get 
attention.

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They get attention then by 
misbehaving.

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When they show behavioral 
problems in the classroom

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and make negative self 
statements,

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then parents need to seek help.

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Very interesting.

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Today our guest 
has been 
Dr. Charlotte Kennedy.

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She's a child 
psychologist and 
of course,

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she's helped us today, 
tremendously I might say,

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understand how we 
as parents can 
work with our children

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in helping to build 
self-esteem.

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Thank you very much 
for being with us.

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It's been a pleasure.

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Friends, today we talked about 
many of the things

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that make us special.

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Everyone is special, and finding 
out what makes us special

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is a lifelong adventure.

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As we learn more about ourselves 
and about others, we can see

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how important and valuable each 
person can be.

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Perhaps this can make us kinder 
to ourselves and to others.

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Because as we learn to value 
ourselves, we can see

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and appreciate the value of 
others.

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Well our time is up for today, 
but I've had an interesting time

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and lots of fun.

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We hope you have, too.

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Until next time, thanks for 
watching.

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So long.

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♪♪♪