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LISA ABELAR: I'd look at him 
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and then I'd look at him

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and I'd look at the water, 
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he said, "You know, 
the story's better if you jump."

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MARTHA MOYER: Now, on the wall 
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I could see a shadow.

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It has paws with claws.

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It's the bear.

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JYNELLE HERBERT: 
Next time I look back,

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my eyes nearly pop 
out of my head.

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Instead of riding atop 
the horse, she's on its side.

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She looked like a stuntman 
in a shoot-'em-up Western.

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ABELAR: 
My name is Lisa Abelar.

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I am a born and raised 
Michigan girl

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that transplanted 
to Arizona.

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By day, I'm a writer,

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and try to find adventure or 
be outside as much as possible.

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And I understand 
that you share quite a bit

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about being 
a mom and an adventurer

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on your Instagram?

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My personal Instagram, 
for sure,

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but then also we have an 
outdoor Instagram

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called Raising Outdoor Kids, 
where we just

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share our outdoor adventures 
as a way to try to

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inspire other people to do 
things that may seem difficult,

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but really, like, you can do it.

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because they might think

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that kids aren't able 
to do certain things yet,

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but we're doing it,

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so if we're doing it, 
others can do it.

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So what are you hoping 
that the audience takes away

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from your story tonight?

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I think there's two parts.

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You don't have to know 
everything

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about what you're doing 
to do it.

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um, and prepare yourself enough,

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but you don't have to be 
an expert at something

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to, to something and get 
something out of it.

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Mm-hmm.

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And, um, you know, 
in that same vein,

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just to, like, do the thing,

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You can get so much more 
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if you just go for it

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rather than sit around 
and think about it.

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Six years ago,

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I walked out of 
an R.E.I. store

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with my arms full of gear 
I had no idea how to use.

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I had a fresh receipt for 
a water bladder,

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which the sales guy 
told me

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would hold my water for me 
on my back

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and gave me a little straw to 
drink it from as I hiked.

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And I ran home,

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and I overpacked 
my rented backpack

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with everything 
I thought I would need

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for my first-ever backpacking 
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which was going 
to be a four-day excursion

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to the bottom 
of the Grand Canyon

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and over to Havasupai Falls,

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this magical oasis of waterfalls

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that almost impossibly 
just pop up out of the desert

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in this remote corner 
of the canyon,

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and they run with this water

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that is just 
a perfect crystal-blue.

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And I didn't really know

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what I was doing 
as a backpacker, obviously,

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but I knew in that moment

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that I really 
needed this adventure.

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So I just 
reminded myself of that

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as I looked down at 
my beat-up Adidas sneakers

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and I started down 
the switchbacks

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that would take me to this 
pretty grueling ten-mile hike

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across the canyon floor

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and over to my campground.

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and I knew it was going to 
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so I really didn't want 
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getting hungry or 
getting tired or getting sore.

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big think topics, you know,

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like, "Where have you been, 
Lise?"

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And, "What have you 
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"and what have you learned, 
and where do you want to go,

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and what do you want?"

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And I just, I was, like, 
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Eat, Pray, Love  my way through 
this hike, so...

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(audience chuckling)

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After a bit of hiking,

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I just said, "I want someone 
who is captivated by me,"

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just out loud, 
to the Grand Canyon.

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Nobody around, 
just said it to a rock.

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make a habit 
of talking to rocks,

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but in that moment, 
I felt like the universe

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really needed 
to hear me say that,

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because at that time 
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I was in the process of 
leaving an abusive marriage,

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and I was going through, like, 
a really terrifying divorce.

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To be down 
in the Grand Canyon

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and be surrounded 
with these rock walls

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that were 
thousands of feet tall,

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odd, freeing fortress 
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Like, on the one hand,

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I was completely 
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and protected from 
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and on the other hand,

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I was in this big new world

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that had suddenly opened for me,

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and I could say yes-- 
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saying yes was a huge deal.

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And I could be in a space 
that was free of chaos

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and full of peace 
and gave me the space

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to actually hear my own thoughts 
for the first time in years.

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really fueled my spirit 
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because I did everything.

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Like, I, you know,

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hiked across these 
tiny little footbridges

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with rushing water 
under them,

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and I crawled 
through these caves

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to get to these waterfalls,

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and some of the waterfalls 
were 100 feet tall.

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And shimmied down these 
rickety ladders

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and used these slippery chains 
to get to where I needed to be.

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that's how I found myself,

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on the very last day,

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standing on a very small ledge 
overlooking a waterfall,

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wondering if I should jump.

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And this waterfall

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was the first jumpable 
waterfall we had come to.

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All the other ones were, like, 
certain death.

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They were way too tall.

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This one 
was maybe 20 or 30 feet,

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but, looking over the edge, 
felt a lot taller than that.

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And as I'm looking at 
that water underneath my feet

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and just thinking about my kids 
and copays and deductibles

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and all the bad things 
that could happen,

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I looked to my right 
for a moment

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and I locked eyes 
with this guy Ron,

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who was part of 
the hiking group,

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and he was just, he was 
waiting for his turn to jump.

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at the water, I thought,

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how in the world had I not 
noticed until now

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how all-consuming 
his big, brown eyes were?

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(audience chuckling) 
Like, I hadn't noticed them

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the day before, when 
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and I was writing all of 
my life's chaos in my journal,

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and he leaned over and 
asked what I was writing.

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And I didn't notice them 
the first night--

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I sat right next to him 
at a restaurant.

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But now, on the edge 
of this waterfall,

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his eyes seemed 
to be everything I needed.

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So my eyes struck up 
this silent conversation

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with his eyes 
and just kept asking them

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if I should stay 
or if I should jump.

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And so I'd look at him 
and I'd look at the water,

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and then I'd look at him, 
and I'd look at the water.

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And at some point, 
he broke the silence and said,

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"You know, the story is better 
if you jump."

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(audience laughs)

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And before I could think of 
anything witty to say,

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he was standing 
directly in front of me,

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facing me on 
this very small ledge,

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and he looked down at me 
and he just said, "Hi."

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And I looked up and I was, 
like...

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(voice shakes): 
"Hi."

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he bent his knees

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and jumped backwards 
off that ledge

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into the water.

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I followed him forward in,

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you know, off the ledge 
into the water,

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in this gigantic physical leap 
of faith on my part,

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which turned into this

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unexpected emotional 
leap of faith for both of us.

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both Ron and I recognized,

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like, there was 
some energy exchanged

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on the top of that waterfall.

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even though we both had 
our own things going on--

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I had my own personal tornado 
on the sidelines,

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and I had kids, 
and he had kids,

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and he was going through 
a separation

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and the whole thing--

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we decided we needed 
to know about each other,

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and so we just dove in 
and we just continued

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that conversation 
that our eyeballs started

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on the edge of that waterfall.

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And we formed and 
built this relationship

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built on adventure 
and just going for it.

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We did everything.

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We went to races, 
we took all of our kids hiking

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through a bunch of 
national parks.

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We paddled and kayaked down 
the Colorado at Horseshoe Bend.

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And a couple of years ago,

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we found the perfect 
deserted beach in Kauai,

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and we got married

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and made our 
adventurous life official.

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And I think the coolest part

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about the whole experience 
for me

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is that right 
when we started dating,

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Ron had sent me 
a text message,

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and it said something about,

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"I'm just captivated by you."

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And it still takes 
my breath away to this day,

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because I only told 
that to the Grand Canyon.

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Like, 
no one heard me say that.

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But I just think that it 
really supports Ron's theory

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that the story 
is better if you jump.

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And I'm so glad I did. 
Thank you.

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(audience applauds and cheers)

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♪ ♪

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MOYER: 
My name's Martha Moyer.

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I live in Somerville, 
Massachusetts,

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and I used to be 
a math teacher.

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And two years ago, I retired 
from teaching math

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so that I could pursue my dream,

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which is to become 
a graphic artist and writer.

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I'm writing a graphic memoir.

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How does teaching math to 
children relate to storytelling?

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Not every child 
that takes math

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is all that interested in math.

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And so I would just let 
the math incubate,

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and I would launch into a story,

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and it really just became a part 
of my teaching repertoire.

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- Mm. 
- And it was fun.

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Who were the storytellers 
in your family

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or amongst your friends?

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Well, I think my mom was, 
like, a big-time storyteller.

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She made up stories 
as bedtime stories,

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and we sat around 
the kitchen table for dinner--

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it was back in the olden days--

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and my dad would always 
tell stories

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about what happened at work.

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So, Martha, 
I understand that this story

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is about your mother.

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It is, definitely.

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And is she going 
to be here this evening

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in the audience? 
- Yes, she is.

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I think they've reserved a seat 
for her in the front row, too.

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OKOKON: What do you think 
it will be like

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to tell this story on stage, 
with her in the audience?

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I don't think I can look at her.

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(both laughing)

253
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You know, 
I think it'll be great.

254
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I think it'll be good for her.

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I think she will feel good 
hearing this story.

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I think it'll be 
a great experience.

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I'm looking forward 
to having her there.

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♪ ♪

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It's 1966, 
and I'm five years old,

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and our family's going on 
a summer vacation

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to Yellowstone Park.

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My brothers are nine and ten,

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and they're in the back seat 
of the station wagon with me,

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and it's pulling a camper, 
trailer tent,

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and my mom,

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she's the passenger 
in the front seat,

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and my dad, 
he's a colonel in the Army,

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and he's driving.

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(laughter)

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We enter the park.

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I look around, and I'm confused.

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I don't see any yellow stones.

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(laughter)

274
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There are signs 
all along the road,

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and I'm too young to read, 
but they have pictures,

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so I can tell 
what they're saying.

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The first one is a bison 
goring a child.

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(laughter)

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Next: a snake, and I know 
it's going to bite me.

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Then a bear, and I know 
it's going to eat me.

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I don't think I'm gonna like 
this vacation.

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So we get to the campsite, 
and my dad and my brothers

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are putting up the tent,

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and I run to Mom, 
and I beg and I plead,

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"Can we just go home? 
This is gonna be horrible."

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And she says, "No, this is gonna 
be a wonderful vacation.

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Camping is fun."

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(laughter)

289
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So if I'd asked my dad 
that question,

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he would have ordered me to just 
be quiet and not complain,

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and I would have said, 
"Yes, sir,"

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because that's what we say 
to Dad.

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"Yes, sir," "No, sir," 
or "No excuse, sir."

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Even when he's at home and 
he's not in his Army uniform,

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he's always the colonel.

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So that's the way we speak 
to him.

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Now, Mom, 
she's really soft-spoken,

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and she's a stay-at-home mom, 
an officer's wife.

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And she takes care of us, 
and my favorite time of day

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is when Dad's about to 
come home, and she gets ready

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by putting on a pretty dress 
and taking her curlers out,

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and putting it up in a beehive 
and putting lipstick on.

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Then she greets Dad with a hug 
and a kiss,

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and she gets dinner on the table 
for the family.

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But just when Dad wants it.

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So now the tent is up,

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and we're fed 
and she puts us to bed,

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we're in our sleeping bags, 
and we sleep soundly.

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Then we're awakened 
by the sound of screams.

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My brothers are pushing 
behind me,

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and my mom is in front of me,

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and she's yelling for my dad, 
and it gets louder,

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and my brothers are pushing 
and screaming,

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and my mom says, 
"Be quiet, be quiet.

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Everyone, just shut up!"

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(quietly): 
So we get very quiet.

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Now, on the wall of the tent, 
I could see a shadow.

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First it's a mound.

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And it rises.

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And then ears sprout.

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It rises more.

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And then it has paws with claws.

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It rises more.

324
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It's the bear,

325
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the same bear that was on the 
sign that was going to eat me.

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(laughter)

327
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And it pokes through 
the flap of the tent,

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and my mom, 
she lunges toward it,

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and she punches it and screams,

330
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"I've got babies. 
You've got babies.

331
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Now, you leave my babies alone!"

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(laughter and applause)

333
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Meanwhile, my dad has escaped 
through the back of the tent

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and climbed over the camper 
and gone to the station wagon,

335
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and he calls for my mom 
from the car.

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"Mary, Mary, come to the car!"

337
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And she screams back, 
"But the kids, the kids!"

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And my dad yells...

339
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(laughing): 
"Oh, yeah, kids, yeah."

340
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(laughter)

341
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My brothers, they push 
and they shove,

342
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and they just stay behind me.

343
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But I watched as my mom, 
she kicks the bear,

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she punches the bear.

345
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I'm only five years old 
and I watch.

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Usually it's my brothers 
who are protecting me.

347
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And she kicks it again.

348
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I can't believe it.

349
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I cover my mouth, 
I want to scream.

350
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It's like watching a game.

351
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And then she hauls off 
and she punches it really hard.

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The bear, it doesn't even budge.

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She takes two fists

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and she comes down really hard 
on its nose.

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It doesn't even growl.

356
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Then she kicks it and punches.

357
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I know she's never gonna quit,

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and then she hauls off 
with all of her weight

359
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and she punches really hard 
and she screams,

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"I've got babies, 
I've got babies.

361
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Now you get out of here!"

362
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And the bear backs away,

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as if to say,

364
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"I don't want to mess with you.

365
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(laughter)

366
00:14:19,633 --> 00:14:21,666
I'll just go to the next tent 
to get dinner."

367
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(laughter)

368
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And Mom, she turns and she hugs 
my brothers and me,

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and cradles us.

370
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My brothers are crying.

371
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I'm not crying.

372
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And that's weird, 
because I'm the youngest.

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I usually cry.

374
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And my mom, she doesn't usually 
hit and kick and punch and yell,

375
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and my dad doesn't usually 
hide in the car.

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(laughter)

377
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I just want to...

378
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I just want to get up 
and scream.

379
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I feel so strange.

380
00:14:54,966 --> 00:14:56,066
I feel happy.

381
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I want to jump for joy 
and dance.

382
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My mom beat up a bear! 
My mom beat up a bear!

383
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(laughter)

384
00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:04,433
She was right, 
camping is fun.

385
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(laughter and applause)

386
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But she rocks us and cuddles us.

387
00:15:16,566 --> 00:15:19,233
And I realize 
there's so much more to her

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than... than food, and curlers, 
and looking pretty.

389
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She's a fighter, 
and she'd fight to the death.

390
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And my dad...

391
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(laughter)

392
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He gives orders,

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and he orders us 
to never mention

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this Yellowstone Park incident

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ever again, 
as long as we live.

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(laughter)

397
00:15:45,300 --> 00:15:48,766
(cheers and applause)

398
00:15:53,066 --> 00:15:57,133
None of us said "Yes, sir" 
to that order.

399
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(laughs)

400
00:15:58,633 --> 00:16:00,366
Thank you so much.

401
00:16:00,366 --> 00:16:04,933
(cheers and applause)

402
00:16:04,933 --> 00:16:09,333
It changed my perspective 
about what a woman could be.

403
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I... I had seen her

404
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as just really thin and delicate 
and beautiful.

405
00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,233
And when I saw her fight, 
I wanted to fight,

406
00:16:19,233 --> 00:16:22,333
and I became a stronger person.

407
00:16:22,333 --> 00:16:24,533
And of the three kids--

408
00:16:24,533 --> 00:16:27,933
and I think it might be 
because of this incident,

409
00:16:27,933 --> 00:16:29,366
because I watched it--

410
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um, I do things 
that are challenging

411
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more than my brothers do.

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♪ ♪

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HERBERT: 
My name is Jynelle Herbert.

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I was born in Boston 
with Caribbean roots.

415
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I am a writer by trade.

416
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I work for a nonprofit, 
a children's charity, in Boston,

417
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and I always like to say, 
"I help save lives with my pen."

418
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You are a writer,

419
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and tonight you're going to be 
sharing a story

420
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with us on the stage.

421
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And I'm wondering, what are 
sort of the differences

422
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in preparing for those two 
separate kinds of experiences?

423
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The nerves.

424
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(laughs, Hazard chuckles)

425
00:17:08,300 --> 00:17:12,000
When you're in a space 
with other people, right,

426
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there's always energy.

427
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It's not just your energy.

428
00:17:15,766 --> 00:17:19,633
Like, when you sit down 
to write in front of a computer,

429
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you can sort of 
control your energy.

430
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But when you're in a room,

431
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you're vibing off of different 
people's energy,

432
00:17:25,366 --> 00:17:26,900
it might feel different.

433
00:17:26,900 --> 00:17:29,966
Once our audience does hear 
the story that you're sharing,

434
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what would you most want them to 
take away from that experience?

435
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Gratitude.

436
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Being thankful for 
the adventures in life,

437
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and being okay 
when things don't always

438
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go the way 
that you think they will.

439
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It's the summer 
after seventh grade,

440
00:17:46,933 --> 00:17:49,066
and I'm almost through

441
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my very first time 
at overnight camp.

442
00:17:51,066 --> 00:17:54,700
I've overcome the fear 
of leaving Boston

443
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and trekking out to the boonies 
of New Hampshire--

444
00:17:58,500 --> 00:18:01,466
(in accent): 
"Going back behind God's back,"

445
00:18:01,466 --> 00:18:03,433
as we say in Trinidad--

446
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to live in a cabin 
with strangers and weird bugs.

447
00:18:08,300 --> 00:18:12,566
I've ignored 
the looks of disbelief

448
00:18:12,566 --> 00:18:16,700
that come with being 
one of only two Black campers,

449
00:18:16,700 --> 00:18:20,333
the surprise that I actually 
know how to swim,

450
00:18:20,333 --> 00:18:25,300
and all the attempts to hook me 
up with my "perfect match guy,"

451
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who just happened to 
be the other Black camper.

452
00:18:27,266 --> 00:18:29,600
(audience laughter)

453
00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,933
I focus on the positives.

454
00:18:31,933 --> 00:18:36,233
Yes, the bugs are bigger 
up here, but so are the stars,

455
00:18:36,233 --> 00:18:38,666
without the glare 
of the city lights.

456
00:18:38,666 --> 00:18:41,600
The air is fresh, 
so I breathe deep.

457
00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:43,933
(breathes deeply)

458
00:18:43,933 --> 00:18:48,033
And I get to learn new things, 
like archery and riflery

459
00:18:48,033 --> 00:18:51,000
and the lyrics to "Cat's in 
the Cradle" by Harry Chapin.

460
00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,200
(audience laughter)

461
00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:57,333
It's family weekend, 
and my family's coming to visit.

462
00:18:57,333 --> 00:19:00,433
Other than a few letters 
exchanged via snail mail,

463
00:19:00,433 --> 00:19:02,400
I haven't talked to them 
in weeks.

464
00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:05,333
So I'm excited to see them 
and dazzle them

465
00:19:05,333 --> 00:19:07,300
with all the new skills 
I've learned,

466
00:19:07,300 --> 00:19:08,966
including horseback riding.

467
00:19:08,966 --> 00:19:11,200
I've gotten 
past the sore thighs.

468
00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,766
I've learned how to post.

469
00:19:13,766 --> 00:19:16,200
That means lift myself up 
and down in the saddle

470
00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:17,666
while my horse trots.

471
00:19:17,666 --> 00:19:21,533
And I've also learned how to 
jump horses-- so much fun.

472
00:19:21,533 --> 00:19:25,433
My family line up 
by the fence to watch me ride.

473
00:19:25,433 --> 00:19:28,866
Even my cousin and aunt 
are here from Trinidad visiting.

474
00:19:28,866 --> 00:19:30,066
A pleasant surprise.

475
00:19:30,066 --> 00:19:32,633
I'm doing great.

476
00:19:32,633 --> 00:19:35,633
I guide my horse to walk, 
trot, and canter.

477
00:19:35,633 --> 00:19:38,100
There are those looks 
of disbelief again.

478
00:19:38,100 --> 00:19:40,033
Don't they know that one 
out of four

479
00:19:40,033 --> 00:19:42,133
American cowboys were Black?

480
00:19:42,133 --> 00:19:45,366
My family, though, 
they watch with pride.

481
00:19:45,366 --> 00:19:46,666
Even my cousin.

482
00:19:46,666 --> 00:19:49,133
It's time to jump.

483
00:19:49,133 --> 00:19:51,766
I'm nervous because 
I had only practiced jumping

484
00:19:51,766 --> 00:19:54,433
my horse, Misty, 
a couple of times.

485
00:19:54,433 --> 00:19:58,100
We ride round the bend 
and line up with the obstacle.

486
00:19:58,100 --> 00:19:59,766
I start talking to myself.

487
00:19:59,766 --> 00:20:02,333
"Time it just right, Jynelle.

488
00:20:02,333 --> 00:20:04,033
"Don't tense up in the saddle.

489
00:20:04,033 --> 00:20:06,733
Ease up on the reins a bit..." 
(gasps)

490
00:20:06,733 --> 00:20:09,066
I feel Misty's legs 
colliding with a pole,

491
00:20:09,066 --> 00:20:10,766
and suddenly I'm falling.

492
00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:13,966
I'm embarrassed.

493
00:20:13,966 --> 00:20:16,100
And I bet my cousin's 
somewhere in the crowd

494
00:20:16,100 --> 00:20:17,200
laughing at me, too.

495
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,833
I don't get up.

496
00:20:19,833 --> 00:20:21,666
I scan the crowd.

497
00:20:21,666 --> 00:20:24,000
I look for my family.

498
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:27,133
They look concerned, 
even my cousin.

499
00:20:28,466 --> 00:20:31,300
Then I meet eyes with my mom.

500
00:20:31,300 --> 00:20:36,066
Just one look and I already know 
what she's thinking.

501
00:20:36,066 --> 00:20:39,166
See, my mom knows a thing or two 
about falling down.

502
00:20:39,166 --> 00:20:41,666
She lost her mother 
when she was ten,

503
00:20:41,666 --> 00:20:45,533
buried both her sisters 
before I was even born.

504
00:20:45,533 --> 00:20:48,400
She fell in love, got engaged,

505
00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:50,733
but then left the warmth of home 
in Trinidad

506
00:20:50,733 --> 00:20:54,500
to travel to cold, gray England 
to learn nursing.

507
00:20:54,500 --> 00:20:58,300
After years there, she left 
the life she had built again

508
00:20:58,300 --> 00:21:00,866
to move to Boston 
and meet her fiancé.

509
00:21:00,866 --> 00:21:02,433
When she arrived,

510
00:21:02,433 --> 00:21:05,033
she found out 
that he had broken his promise

511
00:21:05,033 --> 00:21:09,333
to wait for her, but only after 
he had gotten her pregnant.

512
00:21:09,333 --> 00:21:12,700
She was on her own, 
with a baby on the way.

513
00:21:12,700 --> 00:21:17,000
She worked nights 
and weekends and double shifts.

514
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:19,400
As a Black woman 
and an immigrant,

515
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,200
she knew all too well the looks

516
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,166
of disbelief and expectations 
of failure, too.

517
00:21:24,166 --> 00:21:27,000
She put up with the disrespect 
from doctors

518
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,900
who thought themselves better 
than her

519
00:21:28,900 --> 00:21:33,033
and patients who saw her more 
as a servant than their nurse.

520
00:21:33,033 --> 00:21:36,533
But she saved her money 
and she bought a house,

521
00:21:36,533 --> 00:21:39,066
and she got me 
into a great school system,

522
00:21:39,066 --> 00:21:43,133
always sacrificing, 
always on the sidelines herself

523
00:21:43,133 --> 00:21:44,633
so that I could explore.

524
00:21:44,633 --> 00:21:46,666
There was piano and dance

525
00:21:46,666 --> 00:21:49,100
and Girl Scouts 
and STEM for Girls,

526
00:21:49,100 --> 00:21:51,233
and the list went on and on,

527
00:21:51,233 --> 00:21:54,366
including this very expensive 
summer camp.

528
00:21:54,366 --> 00:21:59,133
Now my mom was literally 
on the sidelines

529
00:21:59,133 --> 00:22:02,700
watching me, 
and I had to make her proud.

530
00:22:02,700 --> 00:22:04,633
So I get up.

531
00:22:04,633 --> 00:22:07,300
I dust myself off.

532
00:22:07,300 --> 00:22:11,733
Before my camp counselor 
can even ask, I say, "Yes.

533
00:22:11,733 --> 00:22:14,200
I want to try again."

534
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,733
I'm back on the horse.

535
00:22:15,733 --> 00:22:19,066
Misty and I round the bend 
and line up with that obstacle.

536
00:22:19,066 --> 00:22:23,333
This time, we soar.

537
00:22:23,333 --> 00:22:28,866
Camp flew by after that with 
a couple of memorable incidents.

538
00:22:28,866 --> 00:22:32,200
There was an awkward kiss 
with my "perfect match" camper.

539
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,200
(laughter)

540
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,000
Which confirmed 
we definitely were not a match.

541
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:38,566
(laughter)

542
00:22:38,566 --> 00:22:42,900
And a showdown with a leech 
in the back of a speeding van.

543
00:22:42,900 --> 00:22:44,700
I won't get into details.

544
00:22:44,700 --> 00:22:46,600
(laughter)

545
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,600
Years went by, 
and there was tennis

546
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:54,433
and theater 
and college and study abroad,

547
00:22:54,433 --> 00:22:58,766
and multiple scandalous 
spring break trips.

548
00:22:58,766 --> 00:23:01,533
A few people here know exactly 
what I'm talking about.

549
00:23:01,533 --> 00:23:03,533
(laughter)

550
00:23:03,533 --> 00:23:05,100
And then grad school.

551
00:23:05,100 --> 00:23:06,666
And Mom didn't even blink 
when I said,

552
00:23:06,666 --> 00:23:08,666
"I'm going back 
to grad school again."

553
00:23:08,666 --> 00:23:13,933
Before Mom passed away, we had 
so many adventures together.

554
00:23:13,933 --> 00:23:15,800
One trip found us in Aruba.

555
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,400
Mom, in her 60s, 
decided that she was going

556
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,166
to go horseback riding 
for the very first time.

557
00:23:21,166 --> 00:23:25,933
Before we get on our horses, 
I give Mom a few tips.

558
00:23:25,933 --> 00:23:29,333
"Okay, Mom, the guide 
and I are going to go first.

559
00:23:29,333 --> 00:23:32,200
"Now, horses can feel your 
energy, so keep calm.

560
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,333
"And if it gets a little bumpy 
and you feel yourself shifting,

561
00:23:35,333 --> 00:23:37,500
just lean the other way, okay?"

562
00:23:37,500 --> 00:23:39,466
We head out.

563
00:23:39,466 --> 00:23:42,133
I'm enjoying the scenery 
unfolding in front of me.

564
00:23:42,133 --> 00:23:44,766
It's like being in a postcard.

565
00:23:44,766 --> 00:23:46,366
I look back to check on Mom,

566
00:23:46,366 --> 00:23:48,433
and she's leaning to the left 
a little.

567
00:23:48,433 --> 00:23:50,566
"Mom!" I yell, "Adjust!

568
00:23:50,566 --> 00:23:52,066
You're leaning." 
(audience laughter)

569
00:23:52,066 --> 00:23:57,933
Next time I look back, my 
eyes nearly pop out of my head.

570
00:23:57,933 --> 00:24:01,966
Instead of riding atop 
the horse, she's on its side,

571
00:24:01,966 --> 00:24:04,300
one leg gripping its underbelly,

572
00:24:04,300 --> 00:24:06,766
the other desperately clinging 
to its back.

573
00:24:06,766 --> 00:24:09,500
She looked like a stuntman 
in a shoot-'em-up Western.

574
00:24:09,500 --> 00:24:11,533
(audience laughter)

575
00:24:11,533 --> 00:24:14,033
Before I can turn my 
horse around, thump.

576
00:24:14,033 --> 00:24:16,133
She falls into the dust.

577
00:24:16,133 --> 00:24:20,066
I'm off my horse and by 
her side, "Mom, are you okay?"

578
00:24:20,066 --> 00:24:23,633
I help her up-- she's not hurt, 
just embarrassed.

579
00:24:23,633 --> 00:24:28,066
"Mom, why didn't you lean 
the other way?" I ask.

580
00:24:28,066 --> 00:24:31,966
(in accent): 
"Oh-ho!

581
00:24:31,966 --> 00:24:35,266
"I thought you said, 
'Lean the same way.'

582
00:24:35,266 --> 00:24:36,833
(laughter)

583
00:24:36,833 --> 00:24:39,500
Like when you're driving and 
you pick up a skid on the ice?"

584
00:24:39,500 --> 00:24:41,000
(laughter)

585
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,000
Silence, then relief.

586
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,766
We laugh,

587
00:24:45,766 --> 00:24:48,266
deep belly laughs that ripple 
through our entire body.

588
00:24:48,266 --> 00:24:51,500
The tour guide, 
he's not laughing.

589
00:24:51,500 --> 00:24:52,733
(laughter)

590
00:24:52,733 --> 00:24:55,033
We help Mom on her horse 
and continue on.

591
00:24:55,033 --> 00:24:58,600
Mom and I were so lucky to have 
many more adventures together.

592
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:02,100
There was the time we went on 
a harrowing helicopter ride

593
00:25:02,100 --> 00:25:04,466
over the Grand Canyon,

594
00:25:04,466 --> 00:25:05,900
and there was the time 
she jumped

595
00:25:05,900 --> 00:25:07,166
on the back of my jet ski,

596
00:25:07,166 --> 00:25:08,900
even though 
she didn't know how to swim.

597
00:25:08,900 --> 00:25:11,466
Talk about trust.

598
00:25:11,466 --> 00:25:13,233
And during chemotherapy,

599
00:25:13,233 --> 00:25:15,366
there was the time she climbed

600
00:25:15,366 --> 00:25:19,333
Mount Washington-- 
not all the way to the top--

601
00:25:19,333 --> 00:25:23,500
but we hiked, my mom, myself, 
and my twin boys,

602
00:25:23,500 --> 00:25:25,533
and I was so proud of her 
that day.

603
00:25:25,533 --> 00:25:27,433
I'm so thankful

604
00:25:27,433 --> 00:25:30,000
for all the adventures Mom 
and I got to go on together

605
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,166
and the example she set for me,

606
00:25:32,166 --> 00:25:34,633
the life she made possible 
for me.

607
00:25:34,633 --> 00:25:38,000
So during those times in life 
when it feels easier

608
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,500
to stay lying in the dust,

609
00:25:40,500 --> 00:25:43,866
the memories of her compel me

610
00:25:43,866 --> 00:25:48,200
to get up and dust myself off.

611
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,733
Thank you.

612
00:25:50,733 --> 00:25:52,266
(cheers and applause)

613
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:57,100
♪ ♪